My friends, I suppose I had high hopes for 2018 given the shit-show that was 2017 and all the heartache, grief, and mad/sadness that it contained. As always, I find myself yearning for new beginnings and do-overs and second/third/nth chances at pulling myself together.
In that vein I’ve decided to run a little blog series throughout December called Unfuck Your Life 2019. I’ve plagiarised this tagline from Unfuck Your Habitat, which gets to the point in a very refreshing way. I’m planning a future post focusing on logistics and solid steps you can take to declutter your life in various ways (physical, digital, metaphorical) but for now I want to focus on support and education.
The focus here is on self-development and a clear steer away from diet culture or bullshit wellness culture, and towards self-love, self-acceptance, and proactive self-care and advocacy. That shit is all very hard, yo! I know. Personally I am making time in the next few weeks for one or two of these resources and I really want to make myself a promise to work on this in 2019.
All price ranges are covered here; if you have the money to spend on more 1-2-1 attention/care then that’s great, but if you don’t then hopefully you’ll find some value in these suggestions too.
This is also a pretty esoteric range of ideas; whether you want to spend time being deeply reflective over a queer/POC-produced tarot deck or set clear and achievable goals for the year ahead, all of that is covered.
1. G.E.N.T.L.E. Goals with Crazy Creative Cool (£6.99+)
I talked a little about CCC’s workbook in a blog post a couple of months back. The resources are rooted in CBT/DBT and the shop‘s expanded since I wrote my post to include a fantastic Perspective Pack that includes a journal, wellness wall chart, and stickers. The pack is only £12.99, but if your budget is a little lower you can try the original G.E.N.T.L.E. Goals Method Workbook and Free Habit tracker for only £6.99.
2. The Alternative Tarot Course from Little Red Tarot ($35/£27)
Little Red Tarot is an alternative tarot site that features and highlights folks who produce tarot decks or who write about tarot from a unique and/or underrepresented perspective. In the site’s own words, this course is for you if: “you feel that tarot is too straight, too white, too conservative, too heteronormative, too whatever – and would like to reinterpret their cards for yourself“. You can shop decks at the Little Red Tarot shop.
3. Ashlee Bennett – The Body Image Therapist ($1-$10+)
Ashlee is a body image therapist utilising a Health At Every Size and Non-Diet approach to wellness. Ashlee offers 1-2-1 email based support, but she also offers a Body Beliefs Guided Journal Series at $10 per ‘lesson’. Currently, there is one available via Ashlee’s website (“the past“) and more will be added in due course.
4. Ragen Chastain – The Wellness for All Bodies Program ($25)
Ragen is a trailblazing fat-positive blogger extraordinaire, publishing frequently on Dances with Fat and helping us all to understand the issues surrounding fat-stigma and encouraging fat folks to advocate for themselves and be well inside our own bodies. I’ve signed up for this programme recently and am really looking forward to carrying the lessons into the new year and hopefully working towards healing my relationship with food/my body/my own health and wellness.
5. Melissa A. Fabello PhD – Online resources and 1-2-1 Consulting ($$$)
If you’re feeling ambitious and you have the $$$ at your disposal then Melissa could be the one to help you achieve your goals. Melissa’s areas of expertise are in sexuality, relationships, feminism, activism, body-acceptance, wellness, and eating disorders. Melissa says there is no project too small: “If you’re doing good work in the world, I want to be a part of it…“. She promises to sprinkle a little magic on whatever your dream project is in 2019.
Tell me, what are your goals or promises to yourself in 2019? Or do you have any favourite ‘self-help’ resources?
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